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Every couple must find it hard too put their finances in order. It takes good planning ahead and some trial and error. Just like what I read in this article by Cynthia Cooper, Ph.D., money is the major reason for the fight in 43% marriage. She also outlines some plan for couples at any age.

1. Don’t live beyond your mean, stop it soon if you do.

2. Treat the household like a business, manage the income and cost.

3. Create an income-and-expense statement, plus a balance sheet if necessary.

4. Create a budget, so you know how much you can spend.

5. Find ways to pay your debt soon, do some cutbacks you both agree on.

6. Find ways to cut expenses or to save more.

7. Get only one credit card for your entire family, use it as minimal as possible.

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Dr. Robert Huizenga, an Infidelity Coach, makes out 10 crucial and surprising steps to build trust in your relationship. We know trust is vitally important in relationship, and so I would like to share his article with you here.

1. Be predictable and consistent in what you do, even in spontaneous actions.
2. Inform your partner when you’re not sure to be ‘predictable’. Things can’t go smooth all the time, just make sure that you’ve alert in advance.
3. Say what you mean, don’t pretend saying good things to make it short and sweet.
4. Believe that other people are competent, that they have the capacity to handle.
5. Be careful with keeping secrets, they are once trusted to you.
6. Let people know your needs, tell it loud and they will know where you stand.

And the list goes up to 10 points.

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Maintaining intimacy and closeness with close ones are not easy. I really feel this. Once I’m busy I can’t maintain the same quality of interaction anymore. However, the tips I found in an article written by Rinatta Paries sound to be interesting and worth trying. She sums up five guaranteed ways to improve any relationship.

1. Acknowledge the big and little things so that people know you notice and care.
2. Give thanks and appreciation, and you are more likely to get the same respect.
3. Give appreciation for who they are. Make a list about what you like from them and share with the person to make him/her feel special.

And 2 more ways if you read this.

Make you curious? Look at this article I get from a relationship site, you can refer to the link below for detail discussion. The author, Ronnie Ann Ryan, writes that it takes the blending of inner and outer techniques to attract love. I’m sure I’d never heard about that before. Now I want to share, his four highly manifesting techniques are as followed. Notice the first two are inner techniques and the last two are outer ones.

1. Make a comprehensive list of what you want in a partner. Just write what you think of because it is an exercise for the imagination, so don’t edit even if it seems impossible. You can also compile them over time.
2. Cut pictures from anywhere that visually depicts your relationship, frame them. To activate the map, spend some time meditating to reinforce the impression on your subconscious mind.

And 2 more points as the ones above, if you read here.

I hit upon this page while surfing the Internet with no purpose. I think it’s good to share it to you. It is posting about four important communication issues to address in every relationship to maintain the happiness and comfort, as you can read below.

1. How to actively listen. Do this without judgement and realise that your spouse might just want you to listen without seeking any solution. Show your interest and sympathy to what your spouse is saying.
2. How to be heard. It’s sad when your spouse just seems don’t care. However be aware not to nag, instead, ask him why and be prepared to compromise.
3. How to express your feeling respectfully. The tips are to take a deep breath before you speak out your concern. Before that, you better prepare a rough plan about what you’re going to say.

How to build trust. This is a really important foundation. Be honest about whatever you do, consider the effect if you’re likely to break your spouse’s trust. Last, wait out. Trust takes time to build. Read more here.

I found this article and got interested “accidentally”, just after I read title. It’s by Sara Staggs. It’s really interesting to me since I have been in some relationships to hear some “I love you” words. Sara Staggs writes some points to consider about when the right time is.

1. Take a good look at the relationship because it’s a big step and never easy. Wait until a significant amount of time unless if you were friends first and it just developed along the way.
2. The intensity of your relationship, is it exclusive or just a hook-up? There’s much more probability if you’re dating exclusively for a few months as compared to a serials of on-and-off dating for a few months

There’s no hard rule about the right time. You may not want to wait too long if you’re in love. Also, there’s no right place to say it, whether spontaneous on the way to the library or after a romantic dinner. Remember that the payoff can be great if you never say. Read here.

It can be the next huge next step in your relationship, but only if you both are ready. I get this from an article by Amanda Roberts, who really understands that being introduced to his or her parents can no doubt be a scary thing. You can’t keep hiding all the time and there must be the first try for everything. Look at that as a way to show your best attitude and see about where your partner is coming from. Amanda Roberts writes that whether the meeting is just dinner or a weekend in their hometown, there are a few tips you can do for the preparation.

1. Be ready for anything, especially if you’re visiting a day full or more. Don’t worry, she means for the outfits to match.
2. Ask questions about what they do and what they love to do.
3. Be confident with who you are and what you’ve got. Let them know you in real life. Just remember to keep being polite.

Find more here.

While reading I came across this interesting article which discuss the above title. Yes. Long-term relationships imply security to life and comfort. But sometimes it can be “no longer enough”, the lust and excitement has gone! People get bored easily, I know. In the article, Ms. Sara Staggs gives some tips to keep it hot and fresh.

1. Keep doing new things together to get new excitements

2. Have a regular date-night, prepare it as you did in first dates

3. Spice up the routine, throw in a twist in your relationship

4. Keep it sexy, make naught surprises

5. Keep laughing together, remember he/she is your trustful partner either to laugh or cry on anything.

The author writes that there is no reason to lose the initial spark just because you’ve been with this person for years. Remember that he/she is the one who has given you this extent of comfort and love during those years. You might not realize now, but he/she must be somewhere remarkable in your heart. Just follow these tips and see how it’ll turn the quality of your relationship.

Dating younger is sometimes “unavoidable”. Mr. Alex Reynolds says in a site that it even gets much easier to do in college as compared to high school, since there’s more definitive wisdom and education in college life. While that, it also has disadvantages with all the pros and contras in issues such as below.

1. Dating someone younger will eliminate the ‘where is this going?’ conversation. For the pros, it means a stress-free relationship. For the cons, it means you both will not talk about the future.
2. Younger’s mindset about love and relationship. For the pros, they possibly haven’t had bad experience before, and so won’t be so guarding and protective. For the cons, the younger will take it too seriously and quickly, and keep you in track.
3. What they think about the date. For the pros, a younger date will understand the strain of your wallet. For the cons, the younger might not ready for the commitment you need and still want an independent life.

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We all know love is so beautiful and lovely. But we should be aware of obsessive love, where one person is emotionally obsessed with the other because they believe only that person can make them feel happy and fulfilled. We sometimes don’t realize between these two. The key difference is whether your relationship gives you a positive feeling and you both are giving and taking.

Ms. Sara Staggs makes a conclusion derived from what John D. Moore, author of “Confusing Love with Obsession,” identified as four stages of obsessive love cycle at a site :

1. The attraction phase. He/she will just flirt as normal people would do, it’s hard to detect at this phase.

2. The anxious phase. He/she is starting to be afraid of losing you. It will grow deeper if you don’t end here.

3. The obsessive phase. Controlling and compulsive behavior start to turn up, where the other person would usually realize and want to get out.

4. The destructive phase. This is the depressing state when you leave the relationship.

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